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Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Slow Down – You Move Too Fast


If you’re of a certain age, or a Simon & Garfunkel fan, you know what comes next – “You got to make the morning last just kickin’ down the cobble stones, looking for love and feelin’ groovy.”


This song has been stuck in my head lately for a few reasons. First it was used by the leader of my business coaching group, Mapping and Mentoring with Marney, a few weeks ago as a prompt to tap into ways to “feel groovy” while growing our business – which resulted in a very energizing and inspiring mind-map for me.




Next, I had three turtles visit me in one day last week – my little niece’s stuffed turtle, a large snapping turtle on a country road and a smaller lake turtle on the side of the highway. I decided it would be fun to check out an animal symbolism website or two to see what the message might be.

You won’t be surprised that the turtle can be seen as a message to slow down the pace of your life (not the first time I’ve received thismessage - so apparently I need to hear it from time to time!) but there were other meanings I found interesting as well. More than one site said that turtles are reminders to :

Honor and protect your creative source within.
Practice patience (I can always use this reminder!)

And perhaps the timeliest message for me:

“The turtle buries its thoughts, like eggs, in the sand 
and allows the sun to hatch the little ones.
 This suggests that you develop your ideas 
before bringing them out into the light.”

I’ve been practicing giving myself permission to slow down my schedule and withdraw a bit from my in-person events, classes and workshops this summer so that I can focus on completing several new creative courses and e-books I’m excited to finish and share with the world.

My heemeesheemee turtle visits (heemeesheemee is my word for serendipitous) felt like a playful affirmation from the universe that slowing down, practicing patience and honoring and protecting the time I need for my inner creative source is definitely the right path for me at this time. Though I knew this in my heart, I’ve been struggling with the notion of pulling back on my offerings to give myself a creative sabbatical of sorts over the summer.

It may be pure coincidence that turtles kept popping up for me last weekend, but it’s so much more exciting and fun to see that bit of serendipity as a sign that I’m on the right path with my own Creative Oasis™!

photo credit Pegasus News
One splendid experience that came to from my new found intention to slow down was allowing myself to simply sit on a bench and look out over the lake after a morning walk for ten full minutes. I often see people just sitting and enjoying the view at the lake, but it seems I’m always in a hurry to get back home and get to work, so I usually just give them a longing glance and walk on by.


I can honestly say those ten minutes I gave myself to simply sit and enjoy the view and the breeze put me in a wonderful frame of mind for the entire day. This is so in-line with Kaizen-Muse® Creativity Coaching philosophy of giving ourselves permission to enjoy small amounts of time with our creativity, exercise, relaxation – whatever it is that we’re longing to do. We don’t have to have a full hour or more – ten minutes can do the trick nicely.

What’s one small way you might slow down this week? It could be as simple as taking one thing off of your to-do list or enjoying ten glorious minutes to just sit and daydream – inside or out.

I’d love to hear your favorite ways to slow down. Please feel free to share in the comments below. If you'd like to receive my Mid-Week Oasis Moments (bite size bonbons of creative inspiration sent weekly to your inbox sign up here: http://www.creativeoasiscoaching.com/newsletter.html. You'll also receive a free copy of my short e-book, "Permission to Be Creative 101."



Until next time, all the best from my Creative Oasis to yours,
Jill

Founder of Creative Oasis Coaching
Master Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coach
Singer/Songwriter
Turtle Lover

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Wanted Dead or Alive – Procrastination



Procrastination...it's one of our most common creative blocks.

It keeps us from enjoying our creative endeavors by allowing our inner critic to whisper in our ear: "You're no good at this. You don't have time for this nonsense. Who do you think you are?"

Procrastination convinces us that everyone else's stuff is more important than our own.

It causes us to hop up and look for something to eat when we're not the least bit hungry.

It fills us with a strange desire to re-organize our perfectly organized sock drawer or pantry or creative closet.

Procrastination tempts us to check Facebook, Twitter and email about ten times more often than we need.

It thrives on busy-work that could easily wait until tomorrow or even never in many cases.

It encourages our stubborn refusal to delegate and assures us that we must do everything ourselves.

Procrastination sucks. Literally. Procrastination sucks the creative life out of us. 
So how to we rid our lives of this insidious creative block?

Simply acknowledging our various procrastination habits is a great first small step. When see our blocks for what they are...when we're aware of the many ways they creep into our lives, that's the first step to hunting down procrastination and putting it behind bars where it belongs.

Here's an easy way to start. What if you make a quick list of all the various ways you might procrastinate today? By taking a moment to acknowledge the different ways you might keep yourself from making time for creative joy, you'll be more aware when your excuses pop up through out the day.

You may realize: 

"Oh, look - here I am on Facebook again. I could spend the next 15 minutes here, 
or I could get out my watercolors and paint." 

You may find yourself staring into your fridge and think,

"I'm not the least bit hungry for food. I want to play the piano!"

You may find yourself shuffling papers around your desk and have the epiphany
"I'd much rather be writing!" 

The idea is, when we're on the look out for our blocks we can stop them in their tracks. We can remind ourselves that we have a choice. "I can spend more time doing this thing I don't really need or want to be doing, or take this time back for my creativity." It takes practice, but it's a doable way to begin. And even if you only open up an additional ten or fifteen minutes in your day for creativity – well, that's ten or fifteen minutes more than you had before – so it's great movement in the right direction! 

Here's to rounding up our procrastination habits and locking them up where they belong so we can free up more time for creative satisfaction in our life!

Need more help saying NO to procrastination and YES to creative fulfillment? One-on-one creativity coaching may be just the ticket. 

Until next time, all the best from my Creative Oasis to yours,
Jill

Jill Allison Bryan

Recovering Procrastinator
Singer/Songwriter
Master Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coach
Founder Creative Oasis Coaching


P.S. – If you'd like to have Mid-Week Oasis Moments (bite-sized bonbons of creative inspiration) delivered each week please sign up here: http://www.creativeoasiscoaching.com/newsletter.html

You'll also receive a free copy of "Permission to Be Creative 101" – my short e-book that will help you take the first small steps to make the time and space for creative fulfillment – your Creative Oasis – in  your busy life!

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Creative Ignorance is Bliss



This Mid-Week Oasis Moment was inspired by the amazing commencement address given by award winning novelist, graphic novelist and screenwriter Neil Gaiman last year at The University of the Arts. (see more below) One of the many fabulous reminders I took away from his captivating and inspiring speech was that not knowing the rules can be a good thing.

To quote Gaiman, 

"When you start out on a career in the arts you have no idea what you are doing.
This is great. People who know what they are doing know the rules, and know what is possible and impossible. You do not. And you should not. 


The rules on what is possible and impossible in the arts were made by people who 
had not tested the bounds of the possible by going beyond them. And you can.


If you don't know it's impossible it's easier to do. And because nobody's done it before, they haven't made up rules to stop anyone doing that again, yet."

Though his speech was written for and delivered to a group of college graduates,
it nonetheless spoke directly to my heart - the heart of a 48 year old woman
long past my own college graduation and well into my third or fourth career.
(depending on whether or not you count working on a private sailboat in the Caribbean
as a career move, which I do) Hearing Gaiman's wise, compassionate and inspiring words
filled me with as much hope and desire to go forth and
live my creative dreams
as if I too were just starting out in the "real world."


Click here to see video of his wonderful speech and read more reminders that
I believe can serve all of us pursuing our creative dreams no matter how long ago
we finished school, or if like Gaiman, we never pursued higher education at all!



   COME PLAY!

Join me for my
Living the Creative Life Workshop
Saturday, June 8 from 1 to 4:30pm
Pigment School of the Arts

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Thanks for joining me for this Mid-Week Oasis Moment.
Please feel free to share with anyone you think could use a bit of creative inspiration and permission!

Until next time, all the best from my Creative Oasis to yours, 
Jill    

 Jill Allison Bryan 
Certified Master Kaizen-Muse®Creativity Coach
Founder of Creative Oasis Coaching(TM)
  
 
  

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Make Good Art – Super Inspiring Keynote by Neil Gaiman

The following commencement address by award-winning novelist, graphic novelist and screenwriter Neil Gaiman, written for and delivered to a group of college graduates, nonetheless spoke directly to my heart – the heart of a 48 year old woman – long past my own college graduation and well into my third or fourth career. (depending on whether or not you count working on a private sailboat in the caribbean as a career move, which I do) Hearing Gaman's wise, compassionate and inspiring words filled me with as much hope and desire to go forth and live my creative dreams as if I too were just starting out in the "real world."

In his speech, "Make Good Art" (or as Upworthy.com writer Kaye Toal calls it, "6 Ways to Make Sure You Don't Hate Your Life and Actually Enjoy It and Stuff"), Gaiman shares things he wished he'd known when he was first starting out. The advice he imparts is so beautifully in synch with the philosophy I share through Creative Oasis Coaching that I couldn't help myself from interjecting to no one in particular as I watched –  "Yes!" "That's it!" "Exactly right!""Preach it, Neil!"



I highly recommend you treat yourself to watching the entire 20-minute keynote address. But if time doesn't allow, I'll briefly share my take on how those of us for whom college graduation is but a fond memory might apply them to our current creative lives.

#1 –  Ignorance is creative bliss. There's no reason to let not knowing how to do something stop you from doing it! Not only do we not have to follow the rules, we don't even have to know them. We can simply begin. We can start painting, writing, taking photographs. Will we break a million rules along the way? Probably so – woo-hoo – who cares? We'll be doing what we want to do creatively rather than wasting time believing we can't do it because we don't know how.

#2 – One small step toward your creative goal is worth much more than one giant leap away from it. Keep taking small steps towards your creative dreams and practice saying no to the things that stand in the way of those dreams (even if the mean more money or prestige or make other people happy.)

#3 – It's not about money. We get to practice creativity for the sake of the experience – because we love creating and want to bring our visions – paintings, songs, scrapbooks, gardens, meals – to life!

#4 – Make mistakes. Mistakes can lead us to wonderful and unexpected things. If we can't make mistakes, we won't end up making anything.

#5 – Be yourself. Create the way only you can. Even if we begin by copying others, the longer we practice our creativity, the more easily we begin to express our own unique creative voice.

#6 – Act "as if." Pretend you already know what you're doing and are doing what you want do. Want to write a book? Act "as if" you're a writer. What do writer's do? The keep notebooks and pencils with them always. They eavesdrop. They write.

What's one small way you might tap into one of these ideas to dive into your own Creative Oasis today?

Jill

Jill Allison Bryan

www.creativeoasiscoaching.com



Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Creative Oasis Magic Formula for Creative Play



Inspired by the clever works in
Craig Damrauer's New Math series,
I decided to create my own formula for Creative Oasis.

#1 - Add a desire to do something (anything!) creative
#2 - Subtract your mile long list of excuses  
#3 - Add in the pure joy of creative fulfillment 
#4 - And now you have your very own Creative Oasis!
Which written as an equation a la
Damrearu's New Math looks like this:
Creative Oasis = I want to do that - excuses + joy
How fun is that?

Whether you dream of painting like Pollack,
writing like Whitman,
or filming like Fellini
the Creative Oasis Magic Formula works!
If your creative dreams look a bit more like
finishing a special scrapbook,
knitting a sweater or making some mosaics
 - that's cool too.
The formula works for any creative play you desire.

Remember, whether gardening, painting,
cooking, dancingor writing songs, 
your Creative Oasis is 
anything that makes your heart sing and time fly.

What's one small way you can use the
Creative Oasis Magic Formula
this week to enjoy your creative passion?


Here are two more ways to practice using the
 Creative Oasis Magic Formula in your life!
  
  
Join me for my
Living the Creative Life Workshop
Saturday, June 8 from 1 to 4:30pm
Pigment School of the Arts

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Thanks for joining me for this Mid-Week Oasis Moment.
Please feel free to share with anyone you think could use a bit of creative inspiration and permission!

Until next time, all the best from my Creative Oasis to yours, 
Jill    

 Jill Allison Bryan 
Certified Master Kaizen-Muse®Creativity Coach
Founder of Creative Oasis Coaching(TM)
  

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Making Your Creative Mark – Q & A with Eric Maisel



An Interview with Eric Maisel

Eric Maisel is the author of Making Your Creative Mark and twenty other creativity titles including Mastering Creative Anxiety, Brainstorm, Creativity for Life, and Coaching the Artist Within. Maisel is widely known as a creativity expert who coaches individuals and trains creativity coaches through workshops and keynotes nationally and internationally. He has blogs on the Huffington Post and Psychology Today and writes a column for Professional Artist Magazine. Visit him online at http://www.ericmaisel.com.

You’ve organized the book around nine keys. Can you highlight one or two of them for us?

I start with the “mind key” because I believe that getting a grip on our thoughts and doing a better job of thinking thoughts that actually serve us are supremely important skills to master. Most people do a poor job of “minding their mind” and choosing to think in ways that serve them. It is a completely common practice for people to present themselves with thoughts that amount to self-sabotage and to refuse to dispute those thoughts once they arise. If people did a better job of “minding their mind” by noticing what they were thinking and by making an effort to replace defensive and unproductive thoughts with less defensive and more productive thoughts, they would live in less pain and they would give themselves a much better chance of living the life they dream of living. This is doubly true for artists who can doubt their talent, take criticism too seriously, find a hundred ways to avoid the hard working of creating, and more. There’s really nothing more important than getting a grip on your own thoughts!

Why do you think someone would want to gamble everything on a life in the arts when it’s so hard to make it as an artist?

Human beings crave the psychological experience of meaning. We want that almost more than we want anything else. There are maybe a score of ways that human beings regularly generate that psychological experience: through service, through relationships, by excelling, by seizing new experiences – and by creating. Creating is one of our prime meaning opportunities and for many people the most important. Therefore folks who decide to devote themselves to an art discipline aren’t making some sort of calculation about risk versus reward. What they are doing is honoring their need to make their own meaning. If you look at a life in the arts as a smart career choice it doesn’t make that much sense; if you look at it as a tremendous meaning opportunity, it makes perfect sense.

You present what you call “the stress key.” What are some of your top tips for reducing the stress that a life in the arts produces?

Life produces stress, the artistic personality produces additional stress, creating produces even more stress, and living the artist’s life is the topper! An artist must learn how to deal with all of these stressors—and how to deal with them effectively. There are many tactics an artist can try—the key is actually trying some! You might try “writing your stress away.” Research reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association suggests that writing about stressful situations and experiences can reduce your stress levels – and can actually lead to improvements in immune functioning, fewer visits to the doctor, and an increased sense of well-being. You can reframe a given demand as an opportunity, turning your “stressful” upcoming gallery show into a golden opportunity. You can have a fruitful conversation with yourself and answer the following four questions: 1. What are my current stressors? 2. What unhealthy strategies am I currently employing to deal with these stressors? 3. What healthy strategies am I currently employing to deal with these stressors? 4. What new stress management strategies would I like to learn? An artist needs to honor the reality of stress and make plans for dealing with it!

Is there one habit or practice that really makes a difference between getting your creative work done and not getting it done?

Yes. The most important practice an artist can institute is a morning creativity practice where she carves out some time bright and early every day, five, six or seven days a week, to work on her novel, practice her instrument, or get right to her painting studio. There are three important reasons to institute a morning creativity practice. The first reason is the most obvious one—you’ll be getting a lot of creative work done! Even if only a percentage of what you do pleases you, by virtue of working regularly you’ll start to create a body of work. That’ll feel good! A second reason is that you get to make use of your “sleep thinking”—you get to make use of whatever your brain has been thinking about all night. Create first thing and capture those thoughts that have been percolating all night! The third reason is that, by creating first thing, you’ll have the experience of making some meaning on that day and the rest of the day can pass in a half-meaningless way and you won’t get depressed! Getting right to your creative work first thing each day provides you with a daily shot of meaningfulness. That’s a lot of goodness to get from one practice.

I’d like you to chat a bit about what you call the “freedom key.” What sort of freedom are you talking about?

Many different sorts—let’s look at just one, the freedom not be perfect; or, to put it slightly differently, the freedom to make big mistakes and messes. Not so long ago I got an email from a painter in Rhode Island.  She wrote, “I'm a perfectionist and I want my artwork to be perfect. Sometimes this prevents me from getting started on a new project or from finishing the one I’m currently working on. I think to myself: If it's not going to be the best, why bother to do it? How do I move past these feelings?” One way to get out of this trap is to move from a purely intellectual understanding that messes are part of the creative process to a genuine visceral understanding of that truth.  You need to feel that freedom in your body. As an intellectual matter, every artist knows that some percentage of her work will prove less than stellar, especially if she is taking risks with subject matter or technique.  But accepting that obvious truth on a feeling level eludes far too many creative and would-be creative people. They want to “perfect” things in their head before turning to the canvas or the computer screen and a result they stay in their head and never get started. You have to feel free to show up and make a big mess—only then will good things start happening!

Another key that interested me is what you call the “relationship key.” What sorts of relationships did you have in mind and what can an artist do to improve his relationship skills?

All sorts of relationships! And relationships in the arts are frequently very complicated. You may be very friendly with a fellow painter and also quite envious of her. You may actively dislike a gallery owner or a collector but decide that he is too valuable to cast aside, maybe because he is your only advocate or your only customer. You may respect your editor’s opinions but despise the rudeness with which she delivers them. There may be no such thing as a genuinely straightforward relationship anywhere in life but relationships in the arts are that much more complicated and shadowy. The main improvement an artist can make is to actually think about the matter! You can decide how you want to be in relationships but only if you actively decide. You get to decide if you want to be honest and straightforward even if others aren’t, if you want to be polite and diplomatic even if others aren’t, if you want to be quiet and calm even if others are stirring the pot and making dramas. It may not prove easy to be the person you want to be at all times and in all situations, especially since the marketplace has a way of throwing us off our game, but you can nevertheless hold the intention to try your darnedest to be the “you” you would most like to be. This takes thought and preparation!


If you'd like to purchase your copy of Maisel's new book via my amazon associate book store, please feel free to use the links that I provided above. 

Until next time, all the best from my Creative Oasis to yours,
Jill

P.S. – If you'd like to have Mid-Week Oasis Moments (bite-sized bonbons of creative inspiration) delivered each week please sign up here: http://www.creativeoasiscoaching.com/newsletter.html

You'll also receive a free copy of "Permission to Be Creative 101" – my short e-book that will help you take the first small steps to make the time and space for creative fulfillment – your Creative Oasis – in  your busy life!


Thursday, April 25, 2013

From Resistance to Creative Flow With The War of Art



Reading The War of Art by Steven Pressfield in preparation for the next Creative Oasis Book Club tele-class series has been an enlightening experience. With each page I feel a powerful connection to Pressfield and his desire to help us break through our own resistance. I admire his unabashed honesty. He holds nothing back as he calls spade after spade regarding our communal love affair with resistance to pursuing our creative dreams. Pressfield fully understands our propensity to procrastinate...our reliance on resistance...our preference for putting off our hearts' desires. His book serves up an in-your-face wake-up call that this must end if we're to live the creatively fulfilling lives we're meant to live. I love this book!

I hope you'll join me for the next Creative Oasis Book Club series as we explore The War of Art May 2nd through 19th. Much more than a typical book club, this unique three week teleclass series provides an in-depth exploration of the book plus creative prompts to encourage us to put the lessons Pressfeld shares into immediate practice in our own lives. (click here to register today)

In addition to helping you to dive deeper into the experience of reading The War of Art these thought-provoking and fun creative exercises foster interesting and meaningful discussion during our telelclass calls. (This is very low-pressure - not homework - simply prompts to use and enjoy in whichever way feels best to you.)


$75
THE WAR OF ART 
3-PART TELECLASS SERIES INCLUDES:

* Three 1-hour interactive teleclass calls
* Three sets of creative prompts and activities created specifically for each call
* Three links to the recorded calls 
(if you're unable to attend the calls lives or just want to revisit the sessions on your own time)

Three consecutive Thursdays 
May 2, 9 and 16, 2013
2 to 3 pm (central)

Email creativeoasiscoach@me.com to register today.

If you'd like to purchase your own copy of The War of Art by Steven Pressfield, feel free to visit my amazon associates store with this link: http://astore.amazon.com/creaoasicoac-20 to place your order.

Here's what members of last month's Creative Oasis Book Club 
have to say about their experience:

"The Creative Oasis Book Club was a wonderful chance to encourage myself to take time to read a book I have been wanting to read but just haven't made the time to do so. The group members' insights and perspectives expanded my thinking. The prompts for thought and exploration Jill provided for each chapter added new ideas and dimensions to my reading. What a enriching experience. I can't wait to join in the fun for her next book club!" 
– Twyla Smith
http://threeyellowfeathers.typepad.com


 "I really enjoyed participating in the Creative Oasis Book Club!
My favorite part of the experience is hearing others perspectives of how Austin Kleon spoke to them and encouraged them. I liked your thought provoking prompts and I love that there was no real homework.  We could do the prompts on any level that we wanted and pick and choose what might organically work."

– Debbie Stinson
www.makemylifesimplifed.com

I look forward to navigating new creative territory with you as we explore the many ways 
The War of Art may help us moved passed resistance and dive into the freedom of creative flow.

All the best from my Creative Oasis to yours,
Jill